Renée Zipp

into-the-wildddd:

You know, a boyfriend would really be nice but than again, so would mozzarella sticks

find a guy who works at applebee’s. boom. problem solved.

We have to respect the decisions people make for themselves. Period.

So you wanna be attractive?

I follow a lot of blogs on tumblr that post pictures of healthy food, skinny girls working out, and motivational quotes. Because I, like many of you, often loose track of my goals of working out and being healthy. As we all know, tumblr can be a scary place. It’s a place where people come to share their inner most thoughts and feelings. The one desire I see most often on my dash is this, “I just wanna be pretty/attractive/beautiful/sexy/etc…”

I’m not here to bash anyone who wants that. I want that. Who really doesn’t? I’m here to help. In the science of attraction, there’s one ingredient to rule them all! And it’s confidence. You can be the fittest individual out there, but if you don’t have confidence, you’re beauty doesn’t stand out.

So how do you get confidence? It’s hard, I know. It’s hard to be confident when you know how many times you have failed. It’s hard to be confident when you know how much further you need to go. It’s hard to be confident when you see people around you achieving their goals. It’s hard. Take a deep breath. You’re not alone. We all have our insecurities, our dark nights, our struggles. So here’s my advice…

Do something you love. Find something you enjoy, and do it. Even if you’re scared you’ll fail. Even if you don’t know anybody. Even if you’re terrible at it. Smile and do it. Failing at something is worth it, if it’s something you love. In life we all have to do things we hate - reading assignments, washing the dishes, running. You can either choose to complain about the things you hate, or rave about the things you love. There’s a thing in the world of public speaking called, emotional contagion theory. It means that your audience tends to feel the same emotions you, as the speaker, emit. If you choose to speak positively about the things you don’t enjoy, and also proudly talk about the things you love doing, people will feel that.

Do you ever realize how your friends get more attractive the longer you know them? When you get to know people, they somehow become more beautiful. So, let people in. Be honest with strangers. Be honest with friends. Listen to people and respond with sincerity. You don’t have to talk about every dirty detail, but if you do decide to open up, even a little bit, make sure you’re true to your heart. For the most part, people know when others are being fake. And it’s a huge turn off. Remember - when we see the good in people, the genuineness, we tend to forgive the bad. And we all have a past. We’ve all made mistakes, embarrassed ourselves, lied, or cheated. Here’s a cliche line, “Every saint has a past. Every sinner has a future.” And it’s so true. We are all redeemable, we are all good at heart. Be confident in who you are and true to who you are, and the right people will notice!

I write this post more for me than for anyone else. I hope this helps someone. 

when a guy acts like he likes you and then when you try to hang out with him he stops acting like he likes you. fucking bullshit. we’re in our twenties - not middle school.